professional photo b and w ICEEFT (2) “After issues of infidelity came to light we both needed help moving forward in a healthy and positive direction. Nicole was able to initially provide a safe space where we could begin sharing honestly. Over the course of our meetings we learned things about ourselves and each other, how to communicate clearly and the value of feelings. Life lessons that we continue to use months later that help us deepen our love daily. We are eternally grateful.” an anonymous couple in Boulder



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J. Nicol Pate, LCSW, Psychotherapist

Some Qualifications…
  • Certified EFT Therapist
  • Certified EFT Supervisor
  • Neurofeedback Therapist
  • Brainspotting Therapist (Levels 1 and 2 trained)
  • EMDR Therapist (I held past certification)

I specialize in
  • Couples therapy - I use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy to help couples create deep and lasting change
  • Neurofeedback - I use the arousal model of neurofeedback to help people address physical and emotional issues
  • Trauma - I work with single incident and long term traumas resulting in specific or complex distress
  • Attachment Issues - I work with attachment issues from childhood relationship distress with parents, and adult relationships which have caused attachment injuries
  • EMDR and Brainspotting - I use these specific techniques to deal with trauma and stuck patterning, as well as performance enhancement
  • Supervision and Consultation - I use a supportive, collaborative approach to help therapists with the specific support and growth they are seeking.

I Offer
  • In Office Therapy and Supervision
  • Online Therapy and Supervision
  • Phone Support

"Nicol helped me get to the point fast.  I was having relationship problems and I needed a couples counselor to help me sort it out.  My partner was skeptical that he could respect or get any real help from a therapist, but Nicol surprised him.  We both felt immediately comfortable with Nicol and my partner opened up in ways I never would've expected.  It was very clear to us that Nicol had the experience and wisdom we were looking for.  I would recommend her to anyone who needs a fresh perspective, an objective ear and solid experience.” Catherine